Hi Moira,
Ive been having trouble with my 2 best friends lately. They got into a fight over a boy and now they hate each other and want nothing to do with each other. We used to all sit together at lunch and now I'm having a hard time because if I sit with one, I feel like I'm hurting the other. I don't like one more than the other, they both mean ALOT to me, and I feel like I'm going to have to choose. What can I do?
If they are both your friends, they should understand that you can't always be in two places at once. You should explain to them that they decided to end their friendship and that it's not your fault that they can't come to agreements. I think if they won't work it out you should make some sort of agreement with each of them that if you have plans with one, the other can't get mad. That way you don't have to tiptoe around them, and you won't have to worry about anyone getting their feelings hurt.
♥Moira
Monday, April 16, 2012
Is it worth trying?
Dear Moira,
I have been with my boyfriend for a few months now and we're completely crazy and in love with eachother. I just found out that his dad is getting stationed somewhere else so we will be in a long distance relationship. He's all for it but I'm a little nervous because I'm scared he might find someone in his new town that he likes better than me. Should we say our goodbyes now or try to make it work?
You've definitely come to the right place. I, myself am in a long distance relationship and we couldn't be any happier. I was with my boyfriend for 3 weeks before I moved and we've been together since I moved. 2 years ago! So I think it's worth a try. If you and your boyfriend are completely in love and you don't want to be with anyone else, then you should definitely try to make it work! It's hard, but it's worth it if you guys are in love.
♥ Moira
I have been with my boyfriend for a few months now and we're completely crazy and in love with eachother. I just found out that his dad is getting stationed somewhere else so we will be in a long distance relationship. He's all for it but I'm a little nervous because I'm scared he might find someone in his new town that he likes better than me. Should we say our goodbyes now or try to make it work?
You've definitely come to the right place. I, myself am in a long distance relationship and we couldn't be any happier. I was with my boyfriend for 3 weeks before I moved and we've been together since I moved. 2 years ago! So I think it's worth a try. If you and your boyfriend are completely in love and you don't want to be with anyone else, then you should definitely try to make it work! It's hard, but it's worth it if you guys are in love.
♥ Moira
Boyfriend V.S. Family
Dear Moira,
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. My family loved him up until about two months ago. We had gotten into a huge fight and broke up for a few weeks. During that time he said things to my family and about my family that really made them upset. I also said very awful things. We recently made up and now we are trying to put those horrible few weeks behind us except my parents want nothing to do with him. They don't want me seeing him and they don't even want him at my house or in my car. It's so hard seeing them hate each other and it's really having a negative effect on my life. I don't want to be torn between them, but I don't want him to think that I don't care about him. I also don't want my family to hate me. Please help.
Well, that's a very tough situation. Families always have your best interest at heart, and maybe they just don't see the sweet and caring side of him that you may see. Especially after that huge blowout that you two had. Unfortunately some parents can be very strict and they can't be persuaded into a different state of mind. When they're upset about something, they stay upset. I have a few tricks or tips that you might want to try before you take the next step. I would try getting your family, and your boyfriend to agree to a dinner. This may take some convincing with your boyfriend, but if your family can see that it's very important to you, they should agree. At this dinner lay everything out on the line. Ask your boyfriend to sincerely apologize for what he said and did. Make sure he really is sorry before having him apologize, because if it's not sincere, your parents will be able to tell. If they accept his apology, then you can work on whether or not they will allow him at your house, or allow you to go places with him. If they don't accept his apology, don't get angry with them. Be mature and try to reason with them once more. Although they don't accept his apology, they should have some respect for the steps that he took to apologize. I hope everything works out well.
♥Moira
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. My family loved him up until about two months ago. We had gotten into a huge fight and broke up for a few weeks. During that time he said things to my family and about my family that really made them upset. I also said very awful things. We recently made up and now we are trying to put those horrible few weeks behind us except my parents want nothing to do with him. They don't want me seeing him and they don't even want him at my house or in my car. It's so hard seeing them hate each other and it's really having a negative effect on my life. I don't want to be torn between them, but I don't want him to think that I don't care about him. I also don't want my family to hate me. Please help.
Well, that's a very tough situation. Families always have your best interest at heart, and maybe they just don't see the sweet and caring side of him that you may see. Especially after that huge blowout that you two had. Unfortunately some parents can be very strict and they can't be persuaded into a different state of mind. When they're upset about something, they stay upset. I have a few tricks or tips that you might want to try before you take the next step. I would try getting your family, and your boyfriend to agree to a dinner. This may take some convincing with your boyfriend, but if your family can see that it's very important to you, they should agree. At this dinner lay everything out on the line. Ask your boyfriend to sincerely apologize for what he said and did. Make sure he really is sorry before having him apologize, because if it's not sincere, your parents will be able to tell. If they accept his apology, then you can work on whether or not they will allow him at your house, or allow you to go places with him. If they don't accept his apology, don't get angry with them. Be mature and try to reason with them once more. Although they don't accept his apology, they should have some respect for the steps that he took to apologize. I hope everything works out well.
♥Moira
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